We are all potential victims of evil bosses, terrible colleagues, unfaithful companions or simply someone who hurts us.
Some, might not only suffer psychological abuse but
even physical or sexual abuse.
Despite how right we are and how wrong those people are, it seems better to forgive and even better forget those who hurt us rather than persist on our hate towards them because persistent resentment can actually permanently damage our physical health.
According to Carsten Wrosch, associate professor of psychology at Concordia University in Montreal, the sense of bitterness interferes in the functioning of the hormonal and immune system. Numerous studies have shown that angry people have higher blood pressure and heart rate and are more likely to die from heart disease and other diseases.
Physiologically, when we resent someone, our body instinctively prepares to fight that person, and this generates physical responses like an increase in blood pressure.
“We get hot to the extent that our inflammatory system responds to dangers and threats,” explains Raison, clinical director of the Body-Mind program at Emory.
This reaction, if of short duration is not dangerous – it could even be useful to fight an enemy – the problem is whether it persists. When our bodies are always ready to fight someone, the increase in blood pressure and chemicals such as C-reactive protein creates a strong stress to the heart and other parts of the body.
“There are very many studies that claim that these mental states of negativity cause heart problems and confirm that their effect is the same as smoking,” explains Raison.
When you feel the rush of anger or hate Step back, take a deep breath, think positively.
Watch the news or read the newspapers or talk to people to realize that many suffer and that suffering is only part of life.
Eventually address the person who hurt you. Sometimes it gives relief, at other times it can be counterproductive.
Continuing experiencing negative feelings by constantly resenting of someone else actions isn’t going to make your life better. In fact It is only yourself that you are damaging!
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